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Shame
posted: November 6, 2007
I was talking to a friend the other day and somehow the conversation drifted into that dark neighborhood at the corner of Disappointment and Shame. Now these are two very different avenues, even if they look similar at first. While those who dwell on Disappointment are renters, the residents of Shame are the owners of a mortgage that will never be paid in full.

I think I'll step off that metaphor here.

I got to thinking about my disappointments and  those things of which I am truly ashamed.

My wasted later teenage years? Disappointed.
My love of 80's metal? Shame. (But I ain't changing - Shout at the devil!)

You get the idea. I can justify my love of Journey ( Guitarist Neal Schon turned down a gig as Clapton's rhythm guitarist when he was 17 so he could go on tour with Santana).

I think the only times I've really been ashamed is when I knew I could do something and didn't. It's like watching someone steal a part of you and not fighting to get it back.

And just so you know I'm giving it my all, I'll admit to liking....no, maybe I won't go that far. Maybe over a beer sometime.
13 comments
daveB November 6, 2007
just ask David Chase, Journey rules!!! I bought my bro the escape concert DVD - we played it on his surround sound system and OMG - it was effin awesome - I defy anyone not to dance to "Any Way You Want It" - it got all the golfers rocking in Caddyshack
rag November 6, 2007
Maybe you have been staring at that album cover too long. AHHyeeah. Must...look...away.
Jim Paillot November 6, 2007
80's metal music- beyond shame. I am forming an intervention task force for you guys. That being said... Shame- I had a green leisure suit (my grandma gave me) even though they were already out of "fashion". And I use the term "fashion" loosely. Disappointment- That I don't have a picture of me wearing it so I can scare my kids! That's called tough love, my friends.
WAM November 6, 2007
Don't stop believin'
Mark P November 6, 2007
Dale - Seeing that album cover is like seeing my youth. It was one of the first records I bought with my own money. I used to draw that album cover and stare at it all the time while the record played! I loved Journey - and that album rocked! Escape Stone In Love Who's Cryin' Now? Open Arms Don't Stop Believin' I played it all the time.... When I hear it now I think, my God, nobody sings like Steve Perry anymore. Where did all the powerhouse rock vocalists go? Where are the standouts? What pipes on that guy!
Josh McKible November 6, 2007
dude- no way was Journey ever even close to being metal. sorry.
Lou Brooks November 7, 2007
Okey dokey, Dale... Right off the bat, right here on this spot, I'm going to admit to my rather intense ABBA addiction (sob!). Yes, I admit it, and God Help me! You think Journey's tough to shake? Try ABBA, pal! Now that is S-H-A-M-E. Strangely, at the same time, I tend to associate their music with sad juke boxes in empty hotel "disco" bars at two in the morning. I don't know when or where I got hooked, but the addiction was galvanized by a Yugoslavian (!!) comedy gypsy gangster movie I saw called "Crna macka, beli macor" (black cat, white cat), where the cocaine addicted hustler in it seems to sing "Money Money Money" throughout the entire film. And sings it badly. He even has the words wrong. But he wears a stupid white Travolta suit and keeps on going and going with it. I haven't ever gotten it out of my head since! BTW, if you ever have a chance to see this movie, don't miss it for anything.
Von Glitschka November 7, 2007
Ah, I loved Journey, Cars, RUSH and Men At Work...Who can it be now...I guess I would have been mocked by the heavy metal crowd in high school? At least you can look back and glean some fond memories of those bands songs. Could the yutes today say the same thing regarding Britney Spears in 20 years? I hope that is a "No".
Dale Stephanos November 7, 2007
I'm glad that I could provide some of you with a spot to shed that heavy yolk of shame here. DaveB - For anyone who doesn't know Dave, he's an unaplogetic FAN. Being around him makes it feel okay to toss that "I'm too cool for school" thing and just enjoy being yourself. Jim - I'll match your green leisure suit with my Evel Knievel jumpsuit that my grandmother made for me and which I wore until I was 12. Can I hear a Jim Carrey "LLLLlllooooooooossssser"! Mark P, I'm with you man, Steve Perry can sing! There's a great story about how Journey and Van Halen toured together once and David Lee Roth made Steve Perry cry in front of his girlfriend. Josh, I agree, Journey ain't metal, no matter what decade it is. I should have made that clear. Lou - I was going to admit my love for ABBA but I thought that I'd get kicked out of Drawger once and for all. I'll just surf what you said. Von - You would have been mocked, but only because of the metal crowd's self loathing over their own love for the same stuff. I think the Journey/ABBA equivalent today is Maroon 5 and that sort of thing. Thanks for the thoughts everyone.
Scott Bakal November 7, 2007
Dale: You scare me. That being said...80's metal, huh? Well, I can certainly be guilty of listening to my share of Motley Crue (Shout at the Devil!) until they decided to wear pink spandex. My 80's metal days revolved around Slayer, Celtic Frost, Metallica, Trouble, Exodus...more of the underground stuff at the time. That is not to say that I wouldn't crank Barry Manilow every now and again. I blame my mother for that. I remember vividly my early musical influences through my family's music playing. In an afternoon, I'd hear Barry Manilow, Paul Anka, Queen, Rolling Stones and topped off with a new artist of the day, Weird Al Yankovic with Another One Rides the Bus.... ....I guess that's why when people cringe at Syd Barrett's solo records (If It's In You), I find absolutely nothing wrong.
Tim O\'Brien November 7, 2007
Disappointment: I was a quitter in High School. Quit the track team, quit the football team and hardly participated in the fun of being a student. I can't get into watching a football game without thinking of myself as a running back/receiver. I was the fastest guy on the team yet knew NOTHING about the rules of football to the point of quitting the positions first and becoming a guard/ tackle instead. Too small for the position I would only excel when pulling out of position and leaning a back down the field. I quit to box. Track was fun but I lost interest and quit that too. I still struggle with the desire to quit EVERYTHING I do. Shame: Anytime I was cruel to someone. I have been from time to time. To combine both stories, once my older brother Dan called me a quitter after I quit playing a pick-up football game. He was sitting on the ground and I walked up behind him and punched him in the back of the head. (I can barely type that without cringing from shame.) My brother Dan merely said "Ouch!" and I fractured two bones in my hand. Serves me right. I think he called me stupid. Music. I love all kinds. Given my own taste, I would have had a collection of Queen, Van Halen and Aerosmith. MY brother Dan introduced me to a wide range of music from progressive rock of Yes and Rush, to the rock of Jethro Tull, Bachman Turner Overdrive, and guitarists like Al DeMiola, and all kinds of lesser known musicians. He taught me the difference between peddlers of pop hits and talented musicians. Today I listen to all the stuff I grew up with, classic rock going farther back, but I'm open to all kinds of music because of Dan. Journey was on the turntable for a while though they never made it to tape or CD for us. They were great for a while and Neil Schon was pretty good. I saw them a few times. Steve Perry was never fun to watch. Steve Tyler was. Current music shame...with iTunes, there is no longer any shame buying anything. My iPod is odd.
daveB November 7, 2007
this summer I saw RUSH and believe it or not Dale there was a time where I felt ashamed of my love for that Canadian power trio. But at one point during this summer's concert - maybe when they played "Entre Nous" from Permanent Waves - a track I never heard them play live in some 20 shows I've seen - I thought to myself, this band has been without question, the most important musical influence of my life and I'll NEVER apologize for loving every nerdy lyric, meter change or high pitch shriek from Geddy Lee. Recently I felt not so alone when I saw the bass player from Stroke9 wearing a custom made Rush t-shirt on stage and Ed Robertson from Barenaked Ladies wearing similar on their new live DVD.
daveB November 7, 2007
also - if anyone reads this after I'm dead (hopefully 60 years from now) please let my wife know I want "Limelight" played at maximum volume as they lower my box into the ground - thanks
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